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a poem for ireland, a poem for the world . . .

27 Monday Sep 2021

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Where I have been living since the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, there is no mailman, but I still check the letterbox in the front door every day. To send or receive a letter, I drive about a mile to a shop on the carraterra between here and the lovely little village which has begun to return to a kind of normal after 18 months of on-again-off-again lockdowns, mask mandates, social distancing protocols, new vaccines, new variants, and head-turning debate about all of these. It’s not officially over. The virus itself will always be around, and even as variants wreak havoc in many places, in others it appears to be “socially over,” people exhausted and drained as they resume a kind of normalcy, no longer fearing- or no longer caring about – the virus which has upended life as we knew it, keeping us apart yet also bringing us together.

The United States Postal Service reported that in 2020, letter writing increased, perhaps gaining more interest because unlike digital and disposable exchanges, letters take a little more work, a little more intention. After all, you have to find a pen, write the letter, put it in an envelope, put a stamp on it, and send it. You have to slow down – even as the world around you spins at breakneck speed.

In the study, 61% of respondents found that “mail is extra special during this time of social distancing” and 54% of respondents found that communication via snail mail fostered a “more meaningful connection to those they sent mail to.”

United States Postal Service

Stashed in a dresser drawer in a room that might one day become a writing room, are some scenic postcards, bought in a gift shop in nearby Chapala at the height of the pandemic. I still plan to send them all, these ‘wish-you-were-heres’ to the people I love best – my own ones – hopeful that the letter writer I used to be will return and take advantage of the hours now available to shape various tidings with the very best words I can find – there is only so much room on a post card, even less than on that red, white and blue trimmed letter that was its own envelope, light as onion-skin, marked By Air Mail – par avion.

When I hand my letter to the smiling girl behind the counter, I do so only half-believing it will reach its intended destination. One package that was mailed to me from Arizona disappeared after spending three months in Mexico city, another arrived but was held hostage at the airport by a customs official for several days before I begged him to just send it back to Phoenix because it had my favorite red coat inside. He did.

On the other hand, the postcards I have mailed to Phoenix and Derry and Limerick and Belfast have all been received. It gladdens me to think of my mother, isolated for all those months with my dad in their Castledawson home turning over a postcard from an impossibly far away Tlaquepaque to see my familiar handwriting for the first time in years.

It was because of the late Eavan Boland that I began sending those picture postcards. Like Seamus Heaney, whose words have scored so much of my life, she had that way of knowing the things that matter most to people, those routines and rituals that shape the ways in which we present ourselves to the world. She knew how to make personal the political and the public. She was, as President Michael D. Higgins said of her “one of the most insightful inner sources of Irish life, not only in life as expressed but as sensed and experienced.” She knew the value of a hand-written letter.

THE LOST ART OF LETTER WRITING

The ratio of daylight to handwriting
Was the same as lacemaking to eyesight.
The paper was so thin it skinned air.
The hand was fire and the page tinder.
Everything burned away except the one
Place they singled out between fingers

Held over a letter pad they set aside
For the long evenings of their leave-takings,
Always asking after what they kept losing,
Always performing—even when a shadow
Fell across the page and they knew the answer
Was not forthcoming—the same action:

First the leaning down, the pen becoming
A staff to walk fields with as they vanished
Underfoot into memory. Then the letting up,

The lighter stroke, which brought back
Cranesbill and thistle, a bicycle wheel
Rusting: an iron circle hurting the grass

Again and the hedges veiled in hawthorn
Again just in time for the May Novenas
Recited in sweet air on a road leading

To another road, then another one, widening
To a motorway with four lanes, ending in
A new town on the edge of a city

They will never see. And if we say
An art is lost when it no longer knows
How to teach a sorrow to speak, come, see

The way we lost it: stacking letters in the attic,
Going downstairs so as not to listen to
The fields stirring at night as they became

Memory and in the morning as they became
Ink; what we did so as not to hear them
Whispering the only question they knew

By heart, the only one they learned from all
Those epistles of air and unreachable distance,
How to ask: is it still there?

Eavan Boland

The morning that Eavan Boland died I had mailed two of those postcards to Ireland before I heard the news. She had been teaching at Stanford University in California, only returning to the old country a month prior to be close to her family in light of the COVID-19 pandemic and its attendant stay-at-home orders.

As I absorbed the news of her death, my mind wandered to her poem, “Quarantine,” in which she uses just twenty spare lines to tell the story of an unnamed husband and wife during the Irish Famine, that catastrophic period once described by former President of Ireland, Mary Robinson, as the event ‘which more than any other shaped us as a people. It defined our will to survive. It defined our sense of human vulnerability.“

Honoring the dead couple in the poem, Boland honors forever over a million people, many of them nameless, who lost their lives to starvation and disease.

Sitting in my house, far from home, reading online daily updates of COVID-19 and its ravages all over the world, I am reminded of this, and of why, in Boland’s own words, she wrote Quarantine, the poem that would eventually be one of ten shortlisted for RTÉ’s selection of Ireland’s favorite poems of the last 100 years in 2015

to bring together so much of the public agony and private experience of the Ireland of that time. Just a terrible parable of people on the dark side of history, who somehow amend it for a moment by the grace of their actions.

Amazing grace.

Quarantine
Eavan Boland – 1944-2020

In the worst hour of the worst season
    of the worst year of a whole people
a man set out from the workhouse with his wife.
He was walking—they were both walking—north.

She was sick with famine fever and could not keep up.
     He lifted her and put her on his back.
He walked like that west and west and north.
Until at nightfall under freezing stars they arrived.

In the morning they were both found dead.
    Of cold. Of hunger. Of the toxins of a whole history.
But her feet were held against his breastbone.
The last heat of his flesh was his last gift to her.

Let no love poem ever come to this threshold.
     There is no place here for the inexact
praise of the easy graces and sensuality of the body.
There is only time for this merciless inventory:

Their death together in the winter of 1847.
      Also what they suffered. How they lived.
And what there is between a man and woman.
And in which darkness it can best be proved.

Famine Memorial, Dublin, Ireland

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the day eavan boland died . . .

27 Monday Apr 2020

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Where I have been living since the beginning of the pandemic, there is no mailman, no mailbox at the end of the driveway, no letterbox in the front door. To send or receive a letter, we have to drive about a mile to a shop on the carraterra between here and the lovely little village which has been deadly quiet of late. While the package that was mailed to me from Arizona three months ago and then disappeared after spending most of these three months in Mexico city, the postcards I have sent to Phoenix and Derry and Limerick and Belfast have all been received. It gladdens me to think of my mother, isolated with my dad in their Castledawson home until this time of Corona passes, turning over a postcard from an impossibly far away Tlaquepaque and seeing my handwriting for the first time in years.

It was because of Eavan Boland that I began sending picture postcards. Thinking about her lately, the way I think about Seamus Heaney, whose words have scored so much of my life, it comes to me that she had – past tense – that way of knowing the things that matter most to people, those routines and rituals that shape our ways of being in the world. She knew how to make personal the political and the public.

THE LOST ART OF LETTER WRITING

The ratio of daylight to handwriting
Was the same as lacemaking to eyesight.
The paper was so thin it skinned air.
The hand was fire and the page tinder.
Everything burned away except the one
Place they singled out between fingers

Held over a letter pad they set aside
For the long evenings of their leave-takings,
Always asking after what they kept losing,
Always performing—even when a shadow
Fell across the page and they knew the answer
Was not forthcoming—the same action:

First the leaning down, the pen becoming
A staff to walk fields with as they vanished
Underfoot into memory. Then the letting up,

The lighter stroke, which brought back
Cranesbill and thistle, a bicycle wheel
Rusting: an iron circle hurting the grass

Again and the hedges veiled in hawthorn
Again just in time for the May Novenas
Recited in sweet air on a road leading

To another road, then another one, widening
To a motorway with four lanes, ending in
A new town on the edge of a city

They will never see. And if we say
An art is lost when it no longer knows
How to teach a sorrow to speak, come, see

The way we lost it: stacking letters in the attic,
Going downstairs so as not to listen to
The fields stirring at night as they became

Memory and in the morning as they became
Ink; what we did so as not to hear them
Whispering the only question they knew

By heart, the only one they learned from all
Those epistles of air and unreachable distance,
How to ask: is it still there?


Eavan Boland

On the desk in the room that I should use as a writing room, sits a little plastic bag of scenic postcards, bought in a grocery store in nearby Chapala before we were ordered to stay home. I plan to send them all, these ‘wish-you-were-heres’ to the ones who know me best – to my own ones. I am hoping the letter writer I used to be will return and take advantage of the hours now available to shape various tidings with the very best words I can find – there is only so much room on a post card, even less than on that red, white and blue trimmed letter that was its own envelope, light as onion-skin, marked By Air Mail – par avion.

I sent two postcards this morning and when I returned to sit and stare out from the beautiful kitchen of a home that is not yet home, I read online that Eavan Boland died today after suffering a major stroke.

With the passing of Eavan Boland Ireland has lost not only an internationally acclaimed poet, distinguished academic and author, but one of the most insightful inner sources of Irish life, not only in life as expressed but as sensed and experienced.

President of Ireland, Michael D. Higgins

Boland had been teaching at Stanford University in California, only returning to Ireland a month ago to be close to her family in light of the covid-19 pandemic and its attendant stay-at-home orders. Absorbing the news of her death, my mind wanders to her poem, “Quarantine.” In just twenty spare lines, she tells the story of an unnamed husband and wife during the Irish Famine, that catastrophic period described by former President of Ireland, Mary Robinson, as the event ‘which more than any other shaped us as a people. It defined our will to survive. It defined our sense of human vulnerability.“

Honoring the dead couple in the poem, Boland honors forever over a million people, many of them nameless, who lost their lives to starvation and disease. Sitting in my house, far from home, reading online daily updates of thousands more Covid-19 deaths all over the world, I am reminded of this, and of why, in Boland’s own words, she wrote Quarantine, the poem that would eventually be one of ten shortlisted for RTÉ’s selection of Ireland’s favorite poems of the last 100 years in 2015 – “to bring together so much of the public agony and private experience of the Ireland of that time. Just a terrible parable of people on the dark side of history, who somehow amend it for a moment by the grace of their actions.”

Amazing grace.

Quarantine
Eavan Boland – 1944-2020

In the worst hour of the worst season
    of the worst year of a whole people
a man set out from the workhouse with his wife.
He was walking—they were both walking—north.

She was sick with famine fever and could not keep up.
     He lifted her and put her on his back.
He walked like that west and west and north.
Until at nightfall under freezing stars they arrived.

In the morning they were both found dead.
    Of cold. Of hunger. Of the toxins of a whole history.
But her feet were held against his breastbone.
The last heat of his flesh was his last gift to her.

Let no love poem ever come to this threshold.
     There is no place here for the inexact
praise of the easy graces and sensuality of the body.
There is only time for this merciless inventory:

Their death together in the winter of 1847.
      Also what they suffered. How they lived.
And what there is between a man and woman.
And in which darkness it can best be proved.

Famine Memorial, Dublin, Ireland

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Ireland, I’m sorry for your trouble . . .

07 Tuesday Apr 2020

Posted by Editor in Covid-19, Death and dying, Dispatch from the Diaspora, Funeral, Rituals, saying goodbye, Seamus Heaney, Seamus Heaney

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Covid-19, Grief, Irish Wake and Funeral, Seamus Heaney

. . .feel
the strumming, rooted, long-tailed pull of grief.
You were born fit for it.
Stand in here in front of me
and take the strain.

From A Kite for Michael and Christopher by Seamus Heaney

My mother tells me she and my dad were able to attend Palm Sunday services on Sunday,virtually, on the iPad I gave her a few years ago. It took a wee while to get the hang of it, she says, but it was lovely, the Minister and his wife reaching the faithful with Bible readings and music from an empty village church, one of thousands of empty churches across the island of Ireland as Holy Week, the highpoint of the Christian calendar unfolds. In this time of Coronavirus, my mother’s iPad, dismissed once upon a time by my father as an unnecessary new fangled contraption that he would never use, is now a cherished lifeline for my parents, unwitting poster-children of physical distancing and social connecting.

The full impact of church closures in Ireland struck me last week, when I read on Facebook about the untimely death of a woman I remember as a laughing girl playing hopscotch around the corner. In the middle of the online Funeral Notice of her death, under the heading Funeral and Wake Arrangements, sat a sentence in its own paragraph, a sentence copied and pasted in every subsequent notice:

In keeping with Government Regulations at this time, the wake, funeral and burial will be strictly private and for family members only.

Strictly private.

Such a request – strictly private – used to be a choice for grieving families. To be fair, it was also a choice that was sometimes ignored, the custom of visiting the wake or the house over two days so deeply ingrained in our culture, especially in rural communities. As this pandemic tightens its grip, it is no longer a choice nor can it be ignored. Public worship, private prayer, and all other meetings and activities except for vital community services are cancelled, with “strictly private” among the new protocols for funerals issued by the HSE to the Irish Association of Funeral Directors. For the foreseeable future, there will be no traditional funerals and wakes, no slow and sombre procession behind a hearse down country lanes, no turn-taking with the ‘lifting.’ Everywhere the Coronavirus has struck, regardless of religion, north or south of the border, there are new rites for closeness and closure. The traditions that have for so long allowed us to pay our respects in known ways have been abandoned. Those known ways in Ireland, I once read, were the right ways.


“It’s definitely an Irish thing,” a friend of mine once surmised, musing that the way we deal with dying and death is stitched tidily in our DNA. She may have a point. While no one explicitly taught us these rituals, we have learned by heart to mark time, stop the clocks, cover mirrors, and close the curtains. We do not falter when led silently into a darkened bedroom where the deceased has been ‘laid out’ in an open coffin. We know how to express condolences over strong tea in china cups balanced on saucers bearing digestive biscuits. We know when to shake hands and say like a catechism the thing that only we say, “I’m sorry for your trouble.” We know when to whisper, when to weep, and when to throw our heads back in laughter over a bit of craic about a life lived in full. We know the songs to sing. We are the people in the Seamus Heaney poems. We know our place. Denied it, we are lost.


My first remembered experience of an Irish funeral was when my grandfather died in 1977. Scores of men in dark suits came out to pay their respects and to say goodbye to Granda. I wasn’t allowed to go – in those days in rural County Derry, women and girls did not attend funerals. Only the men representing the neighboring townlands of Broagh, Lemnaroy, and Drumlamph, participated in the walking cortège along the Hillhead road. Warm in the sunshine that splashed intermittently through woody rhododendrons and alder trees, walked sons and brothers, grandsons, nephews, distant male relatives, and neighboring farmers, some of them, including my father, taking turns with “the lifting” of the coffin. Denied the opportunity to walk with the men who filled the road my grandfather had revealed to me on our walks, I hid most of the day. My road, I knew where the foxgloves and bluebells hid, where the travelers camped their ponies and colorful caravans, where to find big, broad docken leaves that would instantly soothe the sting of a nettle, and where Granda would stop for a minute to retrieve a Barley Sugar from his pocket.

While the men were at the funeral, the women stayed behind and stayed busy, making sandwiches that were neatly cut into little triangles and placed with shortbread and buns on three-tiered china cake stands. After the burial, the men returned to the house followed by a steady stream of mourners, to pay their respects over cups of tea or perhaps “a half-un” of whiskey. After my grandfather’s funeral, the men returned, my mother reminds me not for a cup of tea in your hand, in the parlance, but instead to sit down at a tea-table, on which a white linen tablecloth bore plates of salad, meats, chutneys, and homemade damson plum jam to spread on just baked wheaten bread. And, after them, well into the wee hours, callers came and went with hugs and home-baked Victoria sponges and songs and stoic handshakes punctuated with that simple salve – “sorry for your trouble” that conjures Big Jim Evans and the old men in Heaney’s Mid-Term Break – parochial, intimate, and for the foreseeable future, taboo.

Today, the Irish Hospice Foundation launched a Care and Inform online hub to provide accurate information around funerals and grieving during the Covid-19 crisis. It includes new ways, new norms to replace the traditions that have carried us for hundreds of years, and the Irish must and will find new ways and words to rise to the occasion, to show the kind of sympathy and solidarity that is needed now more than before. At one funeral service, the congregation was made up of floral tributes on each seat with families attending via Zoom or Google Hangouts. A photograph circulating on Twitter shows neighbors lining the road to the graveyard, silent sentinels maintaining social distancing as they bid a poignant and final farewell.

In the weeks to come, the Irish will continue to discover different ways to reach out to the dying, the dead, and the bereaved. There will be new rituals for burial and bereavement – virtual and surreal as this very time – to connect the living and the dead. When it comes to grieving, Heaney once wrote, we are born ‘fit for it’ – we are well suited to ‘take the strain.’

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